MOHAVE COUNTY’S ONLY LOCALLY OWNED COUNTYWIDE NEWSPAPER
Is Dad an Asset in a Modern FamilyThe place of men in this society is more like Alice stepping through the mirror into a fantasy reality than what I saw as a child and as a young father. One of the biggest differences is the advice given by high school counselors. “Remember, you will be sitting across the breakfast table with that girl if you do not keep it in your pants,” was the advice. That was based on the accountability expected of men in an earlier time. Compare that to current trends where three out of four households do not have a father in the home. In too many cases mother does not know for sure who the father is. It is historic that the first woman will head the ticket for a major party in this presidential year while a family headed by a father is becoming extinct. Yet, the society has a degree of sexual “freedom” for all sexes that is without boundaries.Sex and children have been separated to such an extent that 20 kinds of birth control for all employees was required by the Obama administration of the Little Sisters of the Poor. The Supreme Court sent the case back down with a unanimous vote when the feds admitted there are reasonable compromises.On a positive note, Father’s Day is a time to celebrate fathers and thank those who have taken responsibility for raising the next generation. More than that, for me and many other Dads, it is a day to remember all the rewards and great memories that came with an intact family. It is time to look back at the rewards and to the sacrifices your parents made to care for you. Few fathers were perfect and many did not often use words like I love you. But this one day, I for one, choose to dwell on the good things my father did, share the great times with the children and brag a bit about being a grandfather.How can a new father ever forget the first time holding that tiny baby at the hospital and the feeling shared with the mother? Watching that newborn transform from total dependence on the adults around him or her into an adult over the years creates many memories, good and not so good. Fortunately, one can choose to enjoy the good ones and learn from them all. The circle is complete when father walks the bride down the aisle and “gives her away.” The circle begins again with the first grandchild.One must first be a father before making it to grandfather. Some of the privileges expand as one can enjoy the grandchildren on a temporary basis and send them home to have recovery time. However, a new pattern has developed in recent years with many grandparents raising the children of their own children.Some men may get active and salvage the long held role of fathers in the traditional family structure. There are all kinds of foundations for children, to fight diseases, to support women’s rights and salvage all kinds of equality for every group except fathers. There is Mothers Against Drunk Drivers, pink days for breast cancer, feed the kids, walks for many a disease, Make a Wish Foundation...you get the idea.Tons of research prove the child has the best chance of success when raised in an intact traditional family. A man in the family has great influence on both boys and girls. Children are mimics and copy what they see. How to be a good father is learned from the father in the home, if there is one and if he does his job. Whoever takes on that challenge to teach new fathers in this current time faces a great challenge. It could be a game changer for the American culture. Efforts to replace fathers in the family with government programs has failed dismally.